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Jun 02, 2025

Sympathy Messages: What To Write In A Sympathy Card

When someone we care about experiences loss, we often struggle with how to express our condolences. There is certainly a lot to navigate; what should we say? What if we make it worse? It’s natural to worry, but remember, a sincere message of support can mean everything to someone who’s grieving. Here at Flowercard, we believe in the power of heartfelt words combined with the beauty of letterbox flowers. We have provided a guide to sympathy card condolence messages, allowing you to find the right sentiments for every situation. Find out more below.

The Power of a Sympathy Message

Grief is a deeply personal emotional experience, and everyone will react differently. For example, some people may want to seek comfort in others, whereas others prefer to grieve privately. But we can guarantee that everyone feels comforted knowing they are remembered and loved by those around them. Sending a sympathy card is a meaningful way to show that your thoughts are with someone.

When Should You Send a Sympathy Card

Once you hear the news, ideally within two weeks, send a sympathy card. Even if you've already spoken to the grieving person, following up with a card shows your everlasting support. Sometimes, you may only learn about a loss several weeks or even months after it has happened. In these situations, it’s still appropriate to send your condolences. Opt for a thinking of you card if you're worried that a traditional sympathy message feels belated.

What Not to Write in a Sympathy Card

Our experts understand it can be stressful when thinking about what to say in a sympathy message. We are here to make our readers' lives easier, so we have provided a few phrases to avoid when sending a sympathy card.

Everything happens for a reason - This can seem inappropriate unless you share a strong religious or spiritual belief.
Things will get easier - Everyone grieves differently. Therefore, it is best to avoid future-focused sentiments.
She was too young - While this may be true, it only adds to the pain. Choose words that provide comfort instead.
You should... - Now is no time for advice. Instead, offer love and support.
At least they’re in a better place - While meant to be comforting, this phrase assumes the recipient shares your spiritual or religious beliefs.
Time heals all wounds - Grief isn’t linear, and suggesting that it will pass quickly can minimise someone’s pain.
They wouldn’t want you to be sad - This can feel invalidating. Grieving is natural and necessary. It is ok to feel strong emotions during this time.
You’re being so strong - Although often meant as a compliment, this can pressure the grieving person to keep a brave face.

Uplifting Sympathy Messages

You might worry that your message needs to be sombre, but uplifting messages can be comforting if the tone is respectful and tasteful. Whether it’s a quote, a lyric, or a shared memory, don’t be afraid to bring a smile to someone’s face through your words.

Those we love don’t go away; they walk beside us daily.
She/ He lived life to the full. There are so many joyful memories to treasure.
When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
She was loved. You were loved. Saying goodbye is hard, but her love will always remain.
I hope you find comfort in knowing how deeply they were loved, and how much you are, too.

Short & Sweet Sympathy Messages

If you're struggling to find the right words, simplicity often works best. Pair one of these short condolence messages with one of our beautiful Flowercards.

Thinking of you and sending all my love.
He/ She was a very special person. We’re sharing in your sadness.
My heart is with you, always.
Sending you love and prayers.
Thinking of you during this difficult time.
Holding you close in my thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss.

Sympathy Messages for Specific Relationships

Sometimes, the most comforting messages reflect the unique bond shared with the person who has passed. Here are some suggestions of meaningful sympathy messages for different types of relationships:

The Loss of a Father

Losing a father leaves a deep void. Sympathy messages for this loss should honour a father’s role and his lasting impact on those around him.

Your dad’s family was his world. He’ll live on in all your hearts.
He was a kind and generous man, and I was lucky to know him.
May the memories of your dad’s wisdom and kindness bring you peace.
Your father’s legacy lives on through the love he gave so freely.
Thinking of you as you celebrate the remarkable man he was.
All our sympathy as you remember your Dad.

The Loss of a Mother

A mother’s love is unconditional. Messages for the loss of a mother should acknowledge her warmth, care, and the special place she holds in the heart.

The bond you shared was beautiful. Her love will always be with you.
May your mother’s love continue to comfort you every day.
She leaves behind a lifetime of cherished memories and warmth.
Her kindness touched everyone who had the pleasure of knowing her.
Wishing you strength as you remember the love she gave so freely.

The Loss of a Wife

Losing a wife is losing a partner, a best friend, and a soulmate. Sympathy messages here can reflect the deep emotional connection and honour her unique place in the heart.

*You had such a special connection and are true soulmates. *She was an inspiration to all who knew her. *We will never forget her laughter and her love. *She brought joy and warmth to all whose lives she touched. *May you find comfort in the beautiful memories you shared. *Holding you close in this time of unimaginable loss.

The Loss of a Husband

A husband often represents a lifelong companion and confidant. Messages should honor the partnership and the bond they shared.

His love was a strong foundation that will never fade.
May you feel his presence in the love that surrounds you.
He was a true friend and partner, and will be deeply missed.
Remembering the laughter and love you shared so openly.
His memory will forever be a part of your heart’s story.

The Loss of a Child

The loss of a child is an indescribable pain, unlike any other. Messages here should be gentle, empathetic, and offer comfort.

He / She was so loved, and their joy touched everyone.
She / He was fearless and kind, a truly unforgettable soul.
No words can ease this pain, but know I am here for you.
Your child’s spirit will live on in the love you carry.
I cannot begin to imagine your pain, just know we are all here for you.
Words aren’t enough, but know that our thoughts are with you at this awful time.
I am so profoundly sorry for this awful loss. They were a shining star, and they’ll never be forgotten.

The Loss of a Friend

Friends are chosen family; losing one can feel like losing a part of yourself. Sympathy messages should celebrate the joy and companionship shared.

My heart goes out to you. X meant so much to all of us.
No gathering was complete without X. We’ll miss them dearly.
Thinking of the wonderful memories we shared.
Their friendship was a gift that touched so many lives.
We’ll never forget their kindness and laughter.
May the memories you shared bring comfort and smiles.
Thinking of you as you mourn such a cherished friend.

Messages for a Colleague

When a colleague loses a loved one, offering thoughtful words can provide comfort during a difficult time. Sympathy messages for colleagues should be sincere, respectful, and professional, acknowledging their loss while expressing support.

Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Wishing you strength and peace as you navigate this loss.
Take all the time you need, we’re here to support you.
Sending heartfelt condolences your way.
Hoping you find comfort in the love and support around you.

The Loss of a Grandparent

Grandparents often hold a special place as storytellers, caregivers, and family anchors. Sympathy messages should celebrate their enduring love and wisdom.

Their love was a cherished treasure for all who knew them.
May the stories and memories you shared bring comfort.
Grandparents leave a legacy of love that spans generations.
Thinking of you as you remember a truly special grandparent.
Their warmth and wisdom will be missed but never forgotten.

The Loss of a Partner

Losing a partner is an immense emotional loss. Messages should reflect the closeness and profound connection shared.

Your love story was a beautiful journey that will live on.
May you find strength in the love you shared every day.
Their presence was a gift that touched all of our hearts deeply.
Holding you in my heart as you face this difficult time.
May the love you shared bring comfort and peace.

Sympathy Card Prayers & Religious Messages

If the grieving person is religious or spiritual, you may wish to include a faith-based condolence. Here are a few respectful, thoughtful suggestions:

Christian:

May God grant you peace and comfort during this time.
You’re in my prayers. May your loved one rest in peace.
May our Lord bless and comfort your family. I am here for you.

Islamic:

May Allah grant them Jannah and give your family strength.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. May Allah bless their soul.
We pray the love of Allah protects you during these difficult times.

Jewish:

May their memory be a blessing.
May God comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

Sympathy Quotes to Include in a Card

Sometimes, someone else’s words can perfectly capture what we want to say. These timeless sympathy quotes offer comfort and hope.

What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness. – Thomas Bailey Aldrich
Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity. – Terri Guillemets
Grief is the price we pay for love. – Queen Elizabeth II
To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die. – Thomas Campbell

How to Sign Off a Sympathy Card

Sign-offs should match the tone of your message. Whether you're writing something short or more personal, these closings are thoughtful and appropriate: * With deepest sympathy * Thinking of you * Always in our hearts * With love at this sad time * Here for you always * Sending heartfelt condolences

A Flowercard Is the Perfect Way to Send Your Condolences

Sending flowers alongside a sympathy card is a meaningful way to show love and care. With Flowercard, you can combine fresh, elegant blooms with a heartfelt message, all in one beautiful gift. Our collection includes Flowercards that are designed to reflect the memory of a loved one. You can also check out our guide What Flowers Should You Send to Show Sympathy? if you are struggling with this. While nothing can take away the pain of losing a loved one, a sincere gesture, like a Flowercard with carefully chosen words, reminds the bereaved that they are not alone.